YOUR RESULTS ARE IN
YOUR RESULTS ARE IN
Congratulations, Awakening Soul!
You're officially on your way to healing awareness, radical self-acceptance, and strategic action for a better future.
Based on your responses to this quiz,
this is your clarion call to wake up,
show up and investigate what's been holding you back. It’s time to get clear on the healing abilities inside yourself, and commit to the growth and expansion that will set you free.
But no two paths look alike.
Think of this like a Choose Your Own Adventure Journey into Yourself.
The details will be completely unique to you, and your journey will be tailored to meet you where you are now
— but every choice that you make along the way will be made with your eyes (and mind) wide open!
Check out this video for a quick results recap
Time to wake up, buttercup!
You’ve been asleep at the wheel for a while now, with questionable habits and faulty coping mechanisms on autopilot.
Maybe you’ve had one too many hazy mornings after too many nights drowning your demons with a bottle (or a box) of chardonnay.
Or you sometimes rely on retail therapy and comfort foods to cushion you from the sinking feeling that you’re in or rapidly approaching a low point. Again.
And you feel stuck, because you are.
You’re wondering if this behavior is becoming a problem. Or if it already is a Problem with a capital P.
Bottom line–today you’re officially tired of your own BS–feeling like it’s time to do something, anything different.
TO RISE UP AND BE BETTER
… but you’ve been through enough chaos, drama and trauma to feel tangled-up, confused, and e… but you’ve been through enough chaos, drama and trauma to feel tangled up, confused, and exhausted by your own roller coaster of emotional reactions.
Which makes it pretty darn hard to do the work you know you need to do to break old cycles and create new patterns that boost your confidence.
Until now.
Because you aren’t broken! In fact, you’re just beginning the soul-stretching process of getting your act back together!
You have to start asking the right question– ”What happened to me?” NOT “What’s wrong with me?” This is the beginning of a seismic shift in your self-perception.
Pretty soon you’ll start to realize A LOT happened to you–things you don’t remember well, if at all!
And, you gotta trust me here–there’s nothing wrong with you that some loving empathy and compassionate acceptance can’t cure.
And what once seemed like a living hell of unbreakable patterns and insurmountable obstacles is really just self-defeating excuses and coping mechanisms gone south.
I get it. Once upon a time, I was you. And I was effing MISERABLE.
Even trying to figure out where to start can be so daunting it takes you right back to the bar, or the shopping cart, or the (fill in the blank).
Sure you can turn to Google, and even fill your shelf with Brene Brown and Viktor Frenkl’s ‘Man’s Search For Meaning.’
You can tune into Oprah’s Soul Sessions and experience second-hand Ah Ha Moments.
But it’s only through the deep inner work of self-exploration and dedicated commitment to healing that you’ll achieve lasting change
for the better.
Your holy grail?
Naming your demons, making peace
with your past and learning every single tool
you can to pull yourself outta the hole you’re
in so the Universe can start throwing the goods
your way faster than you can say
“So be it and so it is!”
It’s OK.
That kind of energetic
recalibration takes time.
Lots of time…
Months can go by where you keep hitting the snooze button on repeat. That’s ok too–it’s a monumental task to process and integrate what you’ve learned and how far you’ve come.
Sometimes you just have to sit back, relax, and let it buffer.
Because of your soul’s infinite capacity for growth and expansion, this journey is never really over. Forget the dumb peeling an onion analogy…
In fact, congratulations are in order!
Because you’ve just set foot on the path to true growth and transformation. And that’s something 95% of the population
WILL NEVER EVEN ATTEMPT!
The good news is you’re so fed up with your own BS that you’re more than ready to be supported in creating real change – the kind of change that releases you from this worn out, watered down, beat up version of yourself and makes room for the badassiest version of YOU to show up once and for all.
Because you, my friend, are at a critical juncture where crisis fans the fires of true transformation – and that’s where the real, life changing work gets done.
That’s what I call the crawlspace of rock bottom.
No shame, I've been where you are and there couldn’t be a more perfect place for you to wake the F up!
This is where you can fully take stock of what brought you to this point, set your gaze towards a healthier, happier future.
And find out what you're made of.
A future of clear mornings spent in gratitude for EVERYTHING–recovering (actually remembering the night before), showing up and honoring your commitments, celebrating the life of your dreams, because you healed yourself enough to believe that if you dream it, you can freakin’ do it!
A future where you’re so solid and self-aware that you don’t need your old habits, coping mechanisms or addictions to numb your pain.
A future where you’re in
charge of your choices
and always evolving.
And you know what they say about sitting in shit:
You stay there long enough, it stops smellin’!
Well, I say it’s about time you free yourself from the constant circling, brush yourself off, and take a nice deep breath of the roses that will grow from that rich, fertile soil.
Get ready to roll up your sleeves and get your hands dirty in the garden of your own redemption.
Don’t mind the smell, just a little bit longer.
That smell? It’s a good thing–there to guide you to the seedling that's been inside you all along, just waiting for you to open the crawl space door and shine some golden healing light on it 🌞
You know, so you can eventually master your own energy and harness your limitless potential?
(^^Limitless because there’s no end to what you can achieve if you just get out of your own mothertruckin’ way!)
Whether or not it feels like it at this moment, the space you’re in is the perfect launching point for your transformation.
Because, much like a big, fat 2x4 to the head, change is hard, and most of us would rather stay comfortably uncomfortable with what we know than risk the discomfort of the unknown.
Often it takes a crisis
(or a fat plank of wood)
to push us to real, lasting change.
Well, it doesn’t get much less comfortable than where you are right now – sometimes it might even feel like you’re sitting in a pile of shit while circling all the rings of hell in the crawl space of rock bottom.
A life of balance, peace, and serenity that you wake up excited to live isn’t just a dream for you, it’s your future reality!
Now's your chance to unlearn the coping mechanisms you formed in response to the wounding you experienced as a child, take charge of your life with healthy change and boundaries that bring you peace, balance, and serenity.
If you’re asking yourself...
Is this it?????
“Doesn’t life get better than this?”
Why do I keep creating the same version of this shit show????
“How can I stop the insanity of repeating these painful patterns and toxic habits?”
...You’re in the perfect place to blow the lid off your own psyche and blast your energy engine with a nuclear infusion of Awareness, Acceptance, and Action.
Because they didn’t teach you how to be a healthy, well-adjusted adult along with Pythagoras’ Theorem and Phys Ed.
But self-help isn’t something you have to do solo.
And while it’s true that nobody else can do this work for you, don’t fear — because you’re allowed to have guidance, and I’m not just talking about Google.
Take a deep breath.
Reach down deep for some honesty, forgiveness, unconditional love and compassion.
You’re gonna need them as you embark on your healing journey and come to understand every single choice you make, creates and ultimately defines your reality.
“Rock bottom will teach you lessons that mountain tops never will.”
― Damian Lillard
FIRST THINGS FIRST:
To make lasting, healthy change for the better, you need to leave judgment behind. Who you became as a result of the hard times you’ve been through was based solely on the knowledge you had and the tools you were given. You can’t be blamed for what you didn’t know, and judgment doesn’t get shit done, so drop it.
As you explore your path to your energetic healing, there will be a lot of unlearning to do. The coping mechanisms you adopted to survive as a child are no joke, and yes, your inner child is still crying, somewhere in the corner of your heart, just waiting to be seen, heard and loved..
Really, this is the process of evolving past the behaviors that helped you survive, so you can cultivate them into practices that will help you thrive.
So let's look your soul right in the core wound and find out what the fuck is up.
The options at the end of this adventure aren’t Death ☠ or Happily Ever After ✨
They’re:
Staying exactly where you are now, stuck in cycles you can’t break, coping in ways that aren’t healthy for you, doing and saying things you can’t remember while at the mercy of your own faulty fight or flight mechanisms.
—or—
Finally understanding WHY you do the things you do, so your knee jerk reactions become thoughtful responses and you don’t feel like you’re just along for the ride –instead of firmly in the driver’s seat.
—or —
No longer numbing your pain and self medicating with addictive behaviors and harmful habits, because you’ve embraced and healed the pain that caused you to turn to them in the first place.
—or —
Mastering your own energy and healing to the point where you feel like you have freaking super powers! (Did you know your soul can actually expand until your intuition feels like cosmic guidance? Because it is!)
Buuut… if you’re like me 🙄 and sometimes (always) peeked at the back of the book to see which ending didn’t lead to certain doom, here’s an opportunity to take a glimpse at some of the other chapters you can look forward to👇
*Spoiler Alert!*
You could be so inspired by what’s to come that you want to get on the waitlist for the very next Soul Stretch retreat ASAP! (I might know how to make that happen 😉)
Ready for your sneak-peek flip through the pages of your very own Choose Your Own Adventure? Check out the results for the other stages on the Path to Soul Healing and Energy Mastery
YOUR PERSONAL BLUEPRINT
Here are the 3 essential steps to set yourself free from
self-sabotage and core wounding...
Become Aware
You’ve just gotten your wake-up call! And the stark reality is, who you are today is a result of all your yesterdays, and the trials, lessons, and traumas you experienced along the way.
The toxic habits and chaotic trauma reactions have their roots firmly planted in your inner child’s core wounds, and it’s time to shine a light in those shadowy corners.
Here’s a journalin tool to help you become aware
List The Suck
Grab a journal or piece of paper.
Sit somewhere comfortable and safe and close your eyes if you’re comfortable doing so. If not, just gently soften your gaze.
Allow your breath to come and go easily, Let thoughts come and go even more easily until you feel some peace in your mind.
Then turn your thoughts towards your life. Then your body, and Look for where you feel resistance.
Open your eyes, pick up your pen.
Write down 10 things that you are most unhappy about in your life.
Think about the way you’re treated by people who are close to you.
Think about the demands your job makes on you.
Think about the promises you make to yourself that you push aside for other people.
Maybe you have more than 10 but lots of them are little things. Maybe you only have 5 major things that are bringing you down, but they’re pretty heavy.
Write them down so they’re out of your brain, on the paper.
Be fearlessly honest with yourself –
Do any of the things on this list cross your boundaries?
Maybe your boss keeps demanding extra time and effort without compensation.
Perhaps your partner hasn’t been an equal partner.
Or your mom once again ignores you when you ask her to stop putting political posts on your social media page.
Anything that makes you unhappy because another person repeatedly refuses to treat you how you want to be treated or valued – is a violation of your boundaries.
More importantly: Notice how that boundary violation makes you feel.
You could feel tightness in your stomach, your back could hold tension, and your breath could hitch unexpectedly. That’s your body telling your mind to pay attention. Because even though your body is uncomfortable, your mind bears the burden of stress, exhaustion, and overwhelm.
Now, most important of all, what action are you going to take to address those problems?
Knowing it’s a violation of boundaries doesn’t fix it. You have to do the work to communicate, resolve, and then enforce it so you don’t have to ever write it on your list again.
Because the boundaries that you form around the way you’re treated, how you want to spend your energy, and what you accept from those you love —are the ways that you protect your energy, value yourself, and shape the way you want to move through the world.
They’re also how you create protection around yourself as you work your way out of the Crawl Space and into a life you feel is manageable.
Once you have your list, you have a map to the parts of your life that need balancing.
Accept Without Judgement
You were shaped by your experiences, and your reactions are informed by the wounding you endured when people hurt you instead of nurtured you. Acceptance comes when you learn to embrace what is. Then get comfortable with who you are and what you have to work with.
Understand that you are not the sum of your worst failures, and accept that people can and do change. You can, and WILL grow beyond your current limitations, if you just give yourself permission.
Here’s A Meditation To Alchemize Resistance Into Flow
1. Sit and get cozy
Check in with your body and your breath. Feel for resistance, blocks, places where things feel stuck.
2. Use your breath as a detective to feel what area
of your life resistance is showing up in
Work, home life, your relationship with self and others. Explore those spaces and see if you can breathe some light into them as you work through how to approach the tension you uncover.
3. Ask: what lesson are you here to teach me?
How to let go? New opportunity coming? New chance for growth? Often resistance feels like tightening or even pain. Get to know it, it’s a signal to get your attention so it can nudge you in the right direction.
4. Embrace that resistance.
Thank it for being present and making itself known, so you can learn and grow from it.
5. Take 3 long, deep breaths, say thank you, and let it all go.
Let go of the resistance and feel your body, mind and soul relax.
Take Action
Awareness and acceptance are crucial steps in this journey, but they’re useless if you don’t apply them and take action.
Luckily for you, life’s become just a bit too uncomfortable, too unsafe, and too damned shitty to continue on as you have.
Awakened action is your best option, so let’s hop to it!
Start with allowing yourself to notice:
👀 When you fall into an old pattern.
👀 When you feed an old addiction ramping up.
👀 When your actions and words aren’t matching.
Then take a pause:
🕐 Stop to breathe instead of allowing trauma to take the reins.
🕒 Hit ‘Time Out’ and make a conscious choice to be in the driver’s seat.
🕑 Take a minute to play the tape all the way through and consider a different response, one that aligns with a healthier goal.
NEXT
Once you’ve taken stock, noticed an opportunity for improvement, and paused to consider the next step — it’s time to seize the fucking day, my friend!
Take all that healed, repurposed energy and redirect it — without trying to contain or suppress it — and pour it 100% into the action that best supports who you want to be.
Live the change that you want to see in yourself.
Work to recover and restore the things that have been lost to core wounding and chaotic dysfunction.
Things like serenity, balance,
and hope.
You have the power to define whether your future is more of the same old shit you’ve been sitting in for far too long…
… or a new reality where you’re in charge of your own energy, finally at peace in your own skin, and no longer in resistance to what the universe can’t wait to provide for you.
Ready to roll with the punches and respond rationally when life throws you more curveballs, instead of turning to things like comfort foods, cocktails or shopping carts.
Comfortable with yourself because you’ve learned to trust yourself again.
Completely present and dialed into the world around you. Open to guidance from the universe because you’re aligned with your own success.
Soon you’ll be able to embrace the gifts your healing has brought.
And reflect them back out into the Universe. (Like a self-recharging battery on an energetic loop, continuously growing and expanding)
Ready to commune with the universe and everything she has to offer your soul in guidance, resonance, and radical acceptance.
So, ask yourself the most important question of all,
“How do I want to live today?”
Then go out and fucking do it!
Here's the thing:
The universe is ALWAYS conspiring for your success and seeking the creation of more through you! They’re trying very hard to give you the things that you truly, deeply want.
HOLD ON TO YOUR ENERGY...
Curious who created
this soul-stretching
energy mastery quiz?!
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The Liberating Road Ahead
Freedom is on your horizon, friend
The sooner you take steps toward overcoming your self-limiting beliefs, addictions, indulgences, and faulty coping mechanisms, the sooner you can embrace living on the highest plane of your infinitely possible timelines. In short, you’ll be living your best life, without all the struggle and self-sabotage!
Awakening in the Crawl Space of Rock Bottom is the ideal place to take stock of your life, the recipe that shaped you, and the behaviors that have been managing you for far too long.
You're an ever-evolving being of infinite potential, so act like it!
The most exciting thing about digging deep, embracing your own energetic healing powers and focusing on your own soul’s expansion is the opportunity to redefine, rewrite and co-create your future with the universe itself. This journey invites you to dream big, shoot for the stars …
and shift your energetic frequency to bring the spiritual to the mundane.
If you're not sure how to move forward right now, and you need to borrow some benevolent guidance and compassionate understanding— you can lean on me.
Check your inbox for a free Spinal Opening Sequence, and be the first to know about any upcoming retreats that could help your Awakening Soul as you come on up
out of the Crawl Space of Rock Bottom.
I’m PASSIONATE about helping people avoid unnecessary suffering–the Dark Nights of the Soul, the midlife crisis, divorce, addiction–or at least manage it better than I did when I found myself in the crawl space years ago.
With this kind of self-awareness and healing potential, you can learn to shift from
crash and burn to heal at the drop of a dime.
Just remember this, sweet soul – you are a divine spark of God, you matter and
the world needs you now more than ever. So let’s get to it!.